When people enter Carleton College, they are asked to send in a photo to be included in what we called a “Zoo Book,” which is essentially a visual reference to help you rememer the names of all the people you meet throughout your day.
Back in the spring of 1995, my freshman year at Carleton, I was hanging out in the room of one of my dorm-floor neighbors. My friend is a couple years older than I am, so he had the Zoo Book from his entering class. I was absent-mindedly flipping through his zoo book, when I came across the photo of a woman I had seen a few times around campus. In the photo she is sitting against a tree (probably an oak), wearing a fisherman’s hat, looking into the distance off to the right. In my travels across campus, the woman had caught my eye every time she walked by for whatever reason, and now, there she was again.
I showed the picture to my friend, and said, “She’s cute.”
To which he replied, “Oh my god! She is one of my oldest, best friends in my whole entire life!”
The two had apparently gone to junior high school together, and by happy accident ended up at the same collge years later. I don’t remember if he offered to introduce me, but I do know that I thought about it, and chickened out.
Cailin never believes me when I tell that story, but it is the honest truth. I didn’t really get to meet her until a year later, half-way around the world, in New Zealand. I fell in love with her on a tiny island in the middle of the Pacific Ocean on the edge of the Great Barrier Reef, surrounded by mutton birds, sea turtles, and sunshine. And I married her, three years ago today.
Happy Anniversary, Cailin. I love you.